It’s a little before 6am EST. My kids are up super early, as is normal for a Monday. I pick my phone up for a quick moment and see this post from a brother and it says he felt sad sometimes. The below is a stream of thought that it sparked. Actually, the fact that no on acknowledges the strength it took to even be that vulnerable is what really spawned it.
Honestly, I’ve always felt that men, black men most especially, should honor their feelings more. Having a more spiritual walk and understanding what our emotions mean has helped me see that even more. To allow your emotions to have a voice is what allows you to really dig into what area you need healing in. So many of us are carrying around hurt, pain, trauma, and the like; simply because we ran from our emotions. Then we wonder why we high blood pressure, excessive weight gain, and other physical conditions that seem to spring from no where. Whatever is happening in the unseen will manifest in the physical world.
It is so important to move beyond fear and anger to sadness. Sadness causes us to cry which is the physical manifestation of our healing. It is what gives our heart a spiritual shower. In the silences of our tears we can think about what is causing the tears. What unhealed wound is asking to be healed in that moment. Sit with it. Don’t run away. Allow it to be loud so you know how to address it.
Think about when you have a REALLY good cry. That feeling afterwards of peace. And your mind is like going. Don’t ignore those thoughts. Write them down. Even if in that moment they don’t quite make sense. Then read them. Eventually you’ll understand them. It may not happen the first time but it will. If you find the sadness happening regularly, it’s time to talk to someone. Therapy is so needed.
Do you even realize how much ancestral trauma is in our RNA that wants to be healed? We need to let go of the idea we have to hurt or that feeling sadness is weakness. You know what it takes to have the Divine step in? Surrender. You know what it takes to surrender? Being vulnerable. It is letting go of pretense. It is letting go of what everyone says you should feel and simply being laid bare. Fully exposed and honest. Honoring your truest self and then allowing the Divine that dwells within you to have space to do its work on your consciousness.
My brothers, do you know how attractive it is for you to not walk around like an emotionless sociopath? Like seriously.
Creation, it started with the unification of the Divine Feminine (thought, idea, feeling, darkness) and the Divine Masculine (substance, form, action). Then we were created in that image of that Union. All of us have the resonance of the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine within us. Some people attach feminine and masculine to gender. Gender is simply the physical manifestation of the energy we may lean more toward. I say may because there are women who lean more into their masculine and vice versa for men. However, to be balanced we must know when and how to harmonize the flow between those two energies.
Men, you are told so often that you must be 100% masculine 24/7 that you don’t even realize the aspects of you that are the feminine and give you strength. Every time you get inspired, that is your feminine energy at work. Every time you feel… anything… that is your feminine energy at work. Every time you feel sensual… that is your feminine energy at work.
Your masculine energy is the will and rive to bring that idea from thought to action. When you feel the need to protect and then act on that feeling… you are in your masculine.
A manifestation is simply the creation of prayer into reality (it may or may not be tangible depending on your ask). Creation requires you to see and feel for something that isn’t there yet (feminine). Then, you get an inspiration, a nudge to take an action (masculine) to bring it into being (creation). You can manifest being too far into one or the other but the long lasting, sacred manifestations are when you allow yourself to be both.
Ok… now that this stream is slowing down (told you just a stream of thought) I’m going to bring this home. First… if you are angry, annoyed, frustrated…. move beyond that feeling back into sadness. There is something making you sad but instead of sitting in the sadness you are going into a more dense emotion like anger and the like. Let the anger go and move back to sadness. Once you allow yourself to be sad, let the tears fall. Let them cleans you. This is power. This is where your real healing lives. Then allow yourself to move through the sadness (“The only way out is through”) to your joy and bliss. To your healing. Joy and bliss live up there with love and that’s ultimately where we all want to be. In a perpetual state of love.
Second, men — find someone you trust that is willing to hold space for you to honor your feelings. A friend, a therapist, a family member, just… allow yourself to feel. When you feel and allow your self to heal, you shift your energy is such a massive way. Personally, I ask my friends periodically how they “feel” as opposed to “how are you”. It evokes a much deeper response and opens the way for release should they choose to walk through it.
Last but not least… I acknowledge you. I acknowledge that as beings of love you will experience sadness from time to time. If I have space to hold for you to share, I will hold it for you. I may not have it all the time. That is not a reflection of my ability to see you. I will always see you, even if in the moment my space is filled or I’m refilling my own cup. But, if I can, I will hold space for you.
Thank you for attending my early rising thought drop. Have a beautiful Monday. Monday is ruled by the moon, great day to allow yourself to be vulnerable and feel.
